Getting over a breakup isn’t easy and will never be as fast as you’d hope it could be. It will be hard, drawn-out and painful. And you sometimes find yourself wanting what you had back, no matter how bad your ex-partner hurt you. Love can be the best and worst thing, can’t it?
In 2017 I split up with the mother of my two children, but I made the mistake of seeking comfort from somebody else afterwards. And that relationship ended after around 8 months.
I learned a lot from that experience, and this is how you can get over your ex:
Stay Single & Focus on Yourself
This is the single most important thing you can do after breaking up with somebody.
DO NOT, under any circumstances, start speaking to other members of the opposite sex. DO NOT get emotionally involved with anybody else. It may make you feel good for a short time, like it did with me, but eventually it’ll fall apart and you’ll be left with the pain you never dealt with before.
Stay single and focus on yourself. That means live for you, and your children if you have any. Just enjoy time alone and with your friends. Learn to love yourself and your own company again.
You could also try to start a blog as an outlet for your pain. It really works.
Stay Away from Alcohol & Drugs
This is where a lot of people make things worse for themselves. Using alcohol and drugs to numb your pain is like hitting the self-destruct button. DO NOT do it. Stay sober and clean.
Sure, the pain you’re feeling is hard and it’s understandable that you want to escape, but the best way to get over a breakup is to face it head-on. You cannot deal with anything when you are hiding from it. That’s called burying your head in the sand, and it never works.
Eat your pain for breakfast, lunch and dinner. Soon enough, day-by-day, you’ll heal.
When you exercise your body releases endorphins which reduce your perception of pain and also trigger a positive, happy and accomplished feeling within you. Exactly what you need.
If you’re like me and dislike gyms then you can exercise at home like I do. You only need half an hour to an hour a day and there are lots of exercises you can do. Kettlebell circuits, stair sprinting, body-weight exercises like push-ups, sit-ups and pull-ups are just a few of them.
Do this 3-5 times a week and you’ll feel on top of the world. Trust me.
Give to Charity
It has been proven that giving and helping others makes us feel good. Practice being a selfless and caring human being, and in return you’ll feel better for it. Good karma, too, right?
Donate to charities that you believe in, but don’t stop there. Donate your time to a local charity or cause like a fundraising event. Donate food to your local food bank and get out on the streets with a local group to hand essentials out to the homeless. You’ll even meet some great people.
Combine all 4 of these things and you’re on the best road to healing and happiness.
Good luck! 🙂